BE KIND TO YOURSELF
Why is it that with all of our priorities in life, Mother’s always put themselves last? We’re all feeling rushed, time-poor and just a little frazzled (on a good day). It’s a good day when you can brush your hair and leave the house without baby vomit on your shirt.
Being a mother is the most demanding, important and wonderful job you can do. It is so demanding and important that you can sometimes feel that you (you know the person that isn’t a wife, mother, sister, friend) are being left behind.
What happened to the fabulously funny girl with washed and blow-dryed hair, gorgeous outfit, no bags under the eyes and full of ambition.
Life happens. You get tired. You lose yourself a little. Or a lot.
Over the last few weeks, these conversations have been coming up quite a bit, with friends and with family. New and old mums, working at home and working out of home – all feeling the same way.
So, I think it is time for a bit of a change – have you been feeling tired, run-down, exhausted, lost, overwhelmed? You’re not alone. Let’s make the change today to be kinder to ourselves, take some time out to do something that you love, even if it is just for 15 minutes.
Here are some ways to be kinder to yourself.
Guilt and worry are wasted and exhausting emotions. If you feel guilty about something, stop it. If it is something you can change, change it and if it’s not, forget about it. We worry 99% of the time about things that may only happen 1% of the time. Change the way you think, don’t always think about the bad things that can happen (automatic thought process for a mum), think about the good in a situation.
Lose the stress. Stress about the things that deserve it. Stop worrying about a messy house or how much you have to do. Sit down and make a list, it’s never as bad as you think.
Get out. Go on, get outside in the fresh air. Walk, run, read in the sun. Whatever it is you want to do. We all need Vitamin D and fresh air is great for the mind and soul!
Do something you enjoy. This could be as simple as spending 15 minutes reading that new book you got for Christmas, or watching a movie. Or you could consider it on a larger scale, change your life – do what you always dreamed of. Quit your job that you hate and do something you love. It is vitally important that you enjoy your days!
Slow down. A quote from all-time favourite play (Our Town) is “do we ever realise life while we live it, every, every minute?”. The answer is usually a resounding “no”. We’re too busy with our lives that we forget to enjoy it. Slow down. Appreciate the little things. Take time to enjoy your children, partner and friends.
Make time for yourself with a little extra planning. The most important. You’re probably thinking, “How can I do all of this, I am already so flat out???” Plan, plan, plan! There is a fantastic free ebook called 101 tips to control the chaos. It is written by planning queen Nicole Avery who has the blog Planning With Kids. Download the ebook and read it, it truly is wonderful it has so many awesome tips. It even includes a monthly planner where you can plan in ‘me-time’.